Do You Remember Who You Wanted to Be?

By Peggy Kitsoulis

When I was a little girl I didn’t know what I wanted to do when I grew up, but I knew who I wanted to be…Wonder Woman. She was strong, beautiful, courageous, and truthful. On top of that, she had the best accessories! The invisible jet, lasso of truth and those indestructible bracelets were the envy of me and all of my friends. We even made our own bracelets out of tin foil so we could be invincible too. I ran around for hours believing that I was fighting for peace, justice and love for all of mankind.

Then somewhere along that bumpy road into adulthood, I unknowingly unplugged from that strong sense of certainty and confidence. I started giving my super powers away in the name of love and success. I people-pleased, perfected, and performed in every area of my life in order to feel loved, accepted, and complete. When that didn’t work for me, I jumped back on the hamster wheel, repeating the same vicious cycle. The end result was complete exhaustion, resentment, and frustration. At 39 years old I came to the painful realization that had completely disconnected from who I really was. I wasn’t living my truth, I was living someone else’s. I was searching for love in other people and experiences because deep down inside I didn’t love or accept myself.

Four years later, I’m happy to say my story has changed dramatically. I’m not pretending to be Wonder Woman anymore, but I ignited my super powers again. I am brave, I am strong, and I am happy again. Just saying that makes my heart smile.

It’s never too late to become who you were meant to be. Now is the time to plug into your inner super-hero. Try these 3 steps to become the best version of yourself:

Love yourself. Self-love is the foundation for all healing, period. The most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. Practice loving yourself every single day and make it a habit. Replace the judging, criticizing and blaming with love and forgiveness. Treat yourself like you do your best friend. Set healthy boundaries. Say YES to people and things that feed your soul and NO to anything that doesn’t serve you. If you are longing for deeper, connected relationships with others, you must learn to love yourself first. Then wait for the miracles to start happening.

Know your top values. The key to plugging back into your power is knowing what’s truly important to you in your heart, your values. Not what’s important to anyone else, only you. Your values define who you really are and what you really want in your life. They are what you live for, what you are attracted to, what you are searching for, and what gives you the warm fuzzies inside. The key to getting back to your true self is knowing your values.

Own your story. Step back and look at the story you’ve been telling yourself and others about your life. Is it negative or positive? Are you blaming others? Playing the victim? Owning your story is one of the most powerful steps you can take on the journey of healing and self-discovery. Once you own it, then it’s time to write a new story that shifts from a place of fear and negativity to a place of love and positivity. This shift is both empowering and liberating. You have a choice in which story you want to tell.

The most important part of this whole process of is to realize that it is a journey. Be patient with yourself. Surround yourself with a strong support system of people that love and accept themselves and make them your tribe. Please don’t wait. Life is a precious gift. Your life and the world are waiting for you to get back to YOU and share your unique super powers!

Join Peggy  and Jessie Cox as they lead their Solful Surrender Retreat March 6-11 at Alaya Tulum. Email or click here.